8 Tips to get the attention of a kinky girl

  1. Don’t assume they are a slut [hope don’t assume MMH]. The kink world is just like the ordinary world of dating. So talk to their “vanilla” side,  be friendly and inquisitive and you’re more likely get their attention when all the others are talking to their breasts.  The fact is kinksters are NOT easy. If anything some might say they are much harder to pull.  Those on the scene who are genuinely interested in such forward sexual encounters are extremely rare, and the ones I know of.. charge.
  2. Do not talk about your kinks in your first interactions.  I guarantee you will get ignored or if you do get a reply it’s likely to be sarcastic. Good rule might be to wait until they are feeling comfortable enough with you to bring the subject up. Desires are only revealed with trust.
  3. Your profile picture will often mean the difference between you getting a response and not.  A facial picture will significantly increase your chances, a picture of your genitals however will mean they get the wrong impression of your intentions and you’ll get ignored. So save those pictures for if she asks, and ONLY if she asks!
  4. Profile writing. Be honest, if you’re new say so, if you’re shy say so. This is not the place for misrepresentation. Someone new pretending to be experienced sticks out a mile, you can’t hide it so I advise you not to try. Don’t include your fantasies or even the size of your penis here.  Treat it like you would an ordinary social media or dating site. Talk about yourself your interests and hobbies, and you can even add some “fetishes” if you like but this isn’t the place to talk about them in your writings.  Exceptions to this can be things you want to learn about,  so saying “I really like the pictures of people tied up in rope and keen to learn this skill” is totally fine, however saying “really interested in learning how I can anally train a girl for my cock” is not. (If you’re here for a quick lay you’re in the wrong place, try adultfriendfinder.com instead).  Make sure you have something in this part of your profile, simple is fine but you need to have something. Cut and paste from your facebook if you’re stuck for what to write!  From their perspective they want an idea of who they are talking to in order for them to want to engage with you.
  5. Events are important. Starting with your local munch is a great start. Getting your name out there so you are no longer the “unknown” will help people want to know you. Newbies are expected to show their face at events at some point, or you’ll quickly get written off as just another perv or at best a lurker.
  6. Kinksters are gossip merchants. It’s a small community and therefore we all talk to each other. Every kinkster is “kevin bacon” and anything silly you say to one is bound to get to a few others. Think of Kinky dating as networking! The person in front of you might not interest you, however there is always a  chance they know someone who you could be compatible with. Being uninterested or rude to that person can (and happens with alarming frequency) easily spoil your chances with someone you later have your eye on.
  7. Adding “friends” – it’s quite common for newbies on the pull to add every pretty girl to their friends list, however when that pretty girl comes to look at your profile and sees just “pretty girls” in your friends list they will assume you’re a predator and run away.
  8. Groups. This is also a good way of displaying your kinks without it being intimidating – so stock up! Participate where you can, ask questions and use the group to learn. There are many years of resources and people to gather ideas and information from.



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About CheshireCat_MMH

I am a bound girl, an on my knees yes please girl, but just to be clear I am those things to my Master only. I am also a rigger, the gentle sweet kind - who will turn up the pressure oh so slowly that you wont realize I am hurting you till you hear your own whimper. We make rope, made with a sadists love my Master says - or at least thats what he tells me as he grabs hold of my nipples while I am working the rope. So what will you find here? Well... it might be a snap shoot into our lives.. you can see a little about our rope on www.mmhjute.com and my masters rope pics on www.instagram.com/mastermhatter here... here you will find snap shoots and moments behind the scenes, and probably...me in the bath tub with beautiful girls who leave me weak at the knees.

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