We are on the move! – finally! 

Apologies for a short one but we have now exchanged! Keys this Wednesday, followed by moving on Friday!  Our etsy store having had a quieter June has of course now booming again, the last two weeks have been awesome.  Lots of ropey times with friends, lots of casual days out and to.top it all off a lovely party at my friends house to celebrate her 50th. A wonderful evening of outdoor suspensions with my Master and catching up with some old friends. I am only givng a brief summary of the last 2 weeks in this blog.

Princess pointless’s new ropes, in her signature colour! Cant wait to see what antics she gets up to in these!

E puts on her “bunny ears” after a years pause.

Trying out the unicorn rope

Our weekly yoga class is featured on Facebook,

Master and I go to one of our friends birthday parties, and try out her awesome outdoor setup

Possibly the biggest news we have- after moving in, we are getting a cat.  So say hello to Master TP, a ragdol cross with gorgeous babyblues and a bossy dommly dom personality – according to Masterhatter!  Below is the picture that made me fall in love, followed by subsequent pictures of us meeting him.

 

We came away from our first meeting of MasterTP with all the smiles, Sirs reacction was to make MasterTP his own instragram….

Mine was to make him a collar- of course!

In other news we have a new friend, a carpenter kinkster who is already busy making us awesome things for our etsy shop in exchange for rope!  The start of a beautiful friendship 🙂

Picture below is a mock up and not made from MMJUTE, but gives an idea of things to come for our etsy shop.

We occasionally have time to tie together too 🙂

Sir has made some “care bear” rope, which is super cute- Master has some unique ideas for shooting the rope!

We’ve had so many requests for dip dyed rope, we decided to give it a try.  We have a bag of scraps, so we are likely to get more inventive- but this was Sirs first attempt which I think is pretty good!

 Sir and Ben are now chess buddies, whilst we girls try to distract 😀 

 

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Blog 30 – 

Monday

 

Post rope workshop, we take our little poly family out to the forest. (Unfortunately missing our boy Martin and his mistress) Unfortunately for the first few hours I’m constantly on the phone with my conveyancers sorting out the house that in buying, but after that I do a little flight with Sir, before heading off to the local for a few pints.  Before we know it it’s 4pm and decide to head to another pub for “lunch”.  I am a big fan of Wetherspoons, and devour a chilli veggie burger, many more gossips entail before we all call it a night.  It was a truly awesome day.
Tuesday

This is unfortunately the bain of my exsitance, I get chronic nose bleds. Tuesday is mostly spent desperately trying to get up to some fun followed by my nose bleeding. 

Wednesday

Is family day mostly, I take a little visit to the local rspca to look at the kitties.  It feels like moving is getting closer, although admittidlely I’ve been saying that since February. It will happen though!!  Sir and I discuss plans for our new home, which basically turns our home into a dojo where we can have our regulars over for classes and maybe even run a few small beginners workshops. It’s all feeling very exciting.

Thursday

It’s an etsy day.  I got a request from a customer for a double coin braclet, so made up these from our torture rope. 

Friday

It’s pride! 

The event is packed with people as always (we go every year) and sly and Ben come to join us.  There is lots of music, dancing and even competitive football kicking. 

Saturday

Its The day I have to work, sigh. Sir is off to.pride again, and sends me some awesome pictures! I am reminded how much I get off seeing Master tie boys too. 

In the evening I collect ben and sky and we head off to the drive in cinema to watch fight club, ordering chips and nachos from my car window parked up watching a flick is quite a unique experience!

Sunday

I head into work for a few hours, then home to meet fizzydrinkslut, we settle with drinks and big bang theory, whilst I am doing the ironing. 

Blog 29 The heat is on

 Monday

One of the hottest day of the year our lovely fizzy wants to fly! (Car says its 31 degrees) So we head out to the forest super early, then head back for lunch and had lovely afternoon.

Tuesday

Sky and Ben come to visit, we had a play with the new colourful ropes.  Sky gets bored of waiting to play, so gets busy whilst we are chatting away about board games.

Wednesday

E comes to visit for her weekly chats, I have included an old picture of her bunnying becuase.. well I love looking at her bunnying and know you will too.  It’s still extremely hot weather wise and so we head out for ice cream.

Thursday

Its an etsy day, and it’s all about making bracelets! I’ve also had some people comment that their clasps have been tarnishing, so it’s all about researching an finding an alternative.  

Friday

 

Our friend of many years Tash is up for a morning of bunnying.  She’s so much fun to watch 🙂  

Saturday

Is a dull work day, followed by cuddles in the evening.


Sunday

Bournemouth rope group
This was an especially magic afternoon/ evening for me.  A lot of the people in the picture are regulars at our events/parties and so watching everyone getting their ropey kinky fun on with.. was just the most amazing thing, I had all the warm fuzzies for all these uniquely awesome people. 

Do We Build Our Friends Up, Or Tear Them Down?

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When we spoke to Page from Poly.Land a few weeks back, she discussed how since being polyamorous and developing her ability to enjoy compersive feelings, this had not only occurred with romantic relationships but also with friends. That conversation has been rattling around my brain lately, as I pondered the question; Do we build our friends up or do we tear them down?

I think everyone’s instant reaction would be ‘of course I don’t tear my friends down’, probably with a certain level of outrage for it even being suggested. Which I get, I don’t want to think I ever do that either. However, do we always support people as fully as we can, especially if their endeavours may outshine our own?

IMG_3443At the weekend myself and Bakji went to our local peer rope group. So many of our friends were doing awesome rope, suspending partners, suspending friends and…

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Blog 28 Weekly forest trips becoming a thing

Monday 

Tuesday

Awkward phone calls aside, We spend the day on play and yukimura studies.

Wednesday

Sir makes this beautiful rope, we are aiming om practising the dip dye effect to hopefully get to a point of making rainbow rope.

Thursday


Friday

Saturday

No pictures of Saturday, which was 12hrs at work followed by Sir and I video calling His subs and sleeping.

Sunday


Went to visit my mum and dad as it’s fathers day, and had lunch with them. Sat outside with mum for a whole 10 mins before becoming totally cooked. Work for 6hrs, then home to fizzydrinkslut who had arrived at tphq whilst I was out. I make up the orders and we watch some big bang which is our favoraite thing to watch together. 

Blog 27 – summer is here!

Monday

One of Masters subs comes to play, fizzydrinkslut. Unfortunately due to her career she is no longer having photos published.  It’s a day of rope, and sexy times 😉

Tuesday

Making new jewellery again!

Wednesday

This picture sums up Wednesday, we don’t get back from our usual Wednesday morning actitives until lunchtime. After home we enjoy our halumi and tomato bake, then pretty much the rest of the day is spent on clearing up the carnage that is a spilled pot of dye. Despite it only initially covering a small piece of floor, it spreads and eventually covers the entire floor. It takes nearly 3hrs, then a rediciously long shower scrubbing my feet with a kitchen scourer.  I give up at the point that my feet only look pale blue as opposed to black.  I sink into Sirs arms for cuddles before we head back to his for the night.

Thursday

Sir and I have a play day 😉 nuff said. Wink wink.

Friday

Dia and cake invite us to the woods to join them in a little forest rope. It’s pretty much raining when we arrive and we find them huddled up under a umbrella under a tree. It clears up a little and we set up a suspension point with them, chat rope and do lots of self suspension as well as good olde fashion suspensions ourselves. Lovely day.

Saturday

I am working the etsy and made this little cutie for a customer at their request before an afternoon shift, followed by an evening with some of our tea party friends.  It’s fair to say it was a very playful evening and I was to involved to take any pictures. Butt it was a kinkstatic evening of rope, electric and needles 🙂 only a shame we didn’t get around to fire cups.

Sunday


Its a day in the forest for some of our kinky crew, Me, fizzydrinkslut, Ben, Sky and Bambi.  This time just a simple picnic with non scene friends. This for me is then followed by a night shift. No rest for three wicked eh.

It is okay unless it’s not

 

Chesh wanted to write something on poly and my alarm bells went off like a claxon. We have had poly relationships which have gone wrong, and my worry is that the second that she writes something on poly, people we are involved will be hurt, or people we used to be involed in will go “really? Really, you think you are an authority?”

The idea of a relationship guru or an expert on relationships is crazy. Is it someone who has had a successful relationship for forty years, or someone who has had lots of unsuccessful relationships and learnt from them? And what is learnt in one relationship isn’t necessarily transferable to the next relationship – or a different one.

Having given those caveats, if none of us share our experiences then none of us have a chance to learn from each other’s mistakes. So having been around the block a few times and made more mistakes than I care to mention, I wanted to say something about what is okay. It seems unsurprising to say anything – everything is okay as long as everyone is up for it. If you want a one night stand; if you want a three-some, four-some, more-some; if you want to know the people you play with or don’t; if you are a couple who are just using an extra body for sex and want to kick them out as soon as the last person has finished cumming; or if you want to be in a live-in relationship with your poly family… It is all okay as long as that is what everyone wants and what everyone agrees too. Until it isn’t.

That “until it isn’t” bit is tough. First of all I think most of us are very bad at actually knowing what we want – what will work for us, and how long it will work for us. Just on a basic level many of us can imagine something and find in reality it’s different. But it goes further than that – we change. What is okay for us isn’t going to stay the same, and as our needs change our desires change and how we feel about the people in our life evolve. Saying “well, I just agreed to X Y Z” doesn’t cut much water – it fails to recognize that with all the best of intentions, we are not always able to predict what will make us happy or what will make us sad.

I struggle with that a lot – if I say to someone “right, I can see you once every six weeks” and they say “that’s great, I am after the same”, I am shocked six months down the line when it’s not enough. I want to say – “well, we agreed!” When I sit back and am rational I realize that my own feelings have evolved, that actually I want more myself – but my starting point is to want to go “but we agreed!” We both said what we wanted.

With poly, it’s even harder when you have three plus people all with evolving desires and requirements, all with changing goal posts on what makes them happy or sad, what is a turn on and what is a turn off. When one person is upset it throws everything else off and the more people involved the harder that becomes. I don’t want to be all doom and gloom here – one person who is feeling really happy can lift everything. A smile, a skip in the step and huge hug and the world can feel so much better. I also don’t want to suggest that change is a bad thing – it’s not – change can involve moving from a narrow view of what you thought you wanted to something that is far more fulfilling. It can involve moving forward to a far better, healthier, more whole relationship. BUT it requires an ability to not draw a line in the sand and say that was what we agreed – and what we have has to look like what we had, or what we said we wanted. It has to be founded on the fundamental acceptance that our needs, and how those needs get met evolves over time.

So as someone who gets it wrong more than I get it right – my number one piece of poly advice: Everything is okay until it’s not, and when it’s not, be prepared to change.